Posted by: maloneokie on: July 2, 2009
I am so very happy this is a long weekend. I need the down time. This has been a good week and the step kids are not coming this weekend so that helps me so much! I am off of work on Friday and I plan to sleep in and putter around the house. Hubby and I are not sure what we will do on Saturday. Do we want to fight the crowds to watch the same fireworks that we have seen for the last up-teen years? Maybe not. I am perfectly happy staying home in the comfort and watching them on TV. All of the noise make Anna a little uneasy – she will be due for some benedryl that night.
Life with hubby and myself is going smooth. I am continually working on my attitude. Only I can fix me and I can only fix me. I choose to look at the positive aspects not the negative where doubt creeps around. My depression has improved but that is a battle that is never over.
I made out plane reservations for Okahoma City in October. We are going to the UCO homecoming.
Posted by: maloneokie on: June 29, 2009
Things with hubby and I are slowly improving. Now the real test will be this week if the step kids decide to come. A part of me would like to go another week without them but I can’t control that.
I am working my “Love Dare” book. I can only fix me and I am well aware of that.
Thanks to everyone for their advise and support. This is a long road and I do not wish on anyone.
Movie Review: We watched “The Express” last night. It was really good. It is another true sports story.
Food Review: I tried the Nature Valley nut clusters (it sounds dirty doesn’t it?!). They are a good snack. I am sure the are not overly healthy but they are tasty to eat during the movie.
Posted by: maloneokie on: June 26, 2009
Sorry, I had to climb out of my cave.
After the BIG meltdown a few days ago I was really at a cross roads in my marriage. I have been fighting everyone for almost 6 years and I have grown tired. I have been in the defense mode for so long it has become natural. I can’t remember what it is like to have fun and laugh. And that is so not me.
Hubby spoke to the pastor who told him while a noble thought it was a bad idea to take the kids on the trip – especially with all the history. It was a set up for disaster. This is the exact reason I had stalled on the idea. But I digress.
Hubby and I spoke for a while last night and I am hoping that we can work together on some of the issues. Some of the issues is he has not expressed his feelings. That never helps. Arrgh MEN!!
Thanks for everyone’s support and encouragement. I truly appreciate it.
Posted by: maloneokie on: June 24, 2009
When you call me to tell me you “smoothed” things over with SD2? WTF?
She felt I “yelled” at her but could not remember when and one time when she got her feelings hurt and felt my apology was not sincere. She is freakin’ 13 years old. She does not run the show.
She has been told for 12 solid months that there is nothing to do in Oklahoma. My family and friends have gone way out of their way to make you feel welcome and to try to come up with “things” for you to do. She called my cousins “redneck” (yes they are but that is not the issue right now) and I did not say a word. She made me late on more than one occasion and yes that irks me.
DO NOT call me at work on my first day back when I have already told you my boss is “in a mood” and tell me how you smoothed over my errors with SD2. I don’t give a flying bicycle how she feels. Tell me how I used my only vacation of the year to spend with them to have them come back and slap it in my face.
I am so mad I could spit nail. This is the point where you tell me I am wrong blah blah blah.
Ahh, welcome back to reality.
Posted by: maloneokie on: June 16, 2009
Like you thought it would end after only 1 day! HA!
So seems that PEW “remembered” her child support checks arrives on Tuesday. How magical is that? So she will buy them each 1 pair of shorts so they will have just enough for the trip. She still seems to think that I somehow am her personal piggy bank. And I am sure she will stuff all the kids stuff in a WalMart bag and send them out. Geez how white trash can a person be? Wait don’t answer that – it was rhetorical.
So right now (Tuesday) the drama is quiet but it is still 48 hours until we leave.
Posted by: maloneokie on: June 15, 2009
We went to the drive in movie and watched “Up”. It was good.
Watched “Last Holiday” on Netflix – it was good. Not great but good.
I made a chocolate peanut butter pie – from Pioneer Woman’s blog- and it was wonderful.
** I get the feeling I am not liking mu web sites correctly and if you know how to tell me to do it. I will.
I did go and look at laptops this weekend. I will work on that when I get back from Oklahoma.
Posted by: maloneokie on: June 15, 2009
Well this is Monday and we leave for Oklahoma on Thursday early morning. Hubby is supposed to pick up the kids on Wednesday night ready to leave. Well well well…hubby called PEW (psycho ex wife) and she said the kids still don’t have any clothes or luggage and we would have to buy everything. Whoa nelly!!! I told her specifically 2 weeks ago to have them packed and ready to go or the trip was off. SO as of right now (on Monday) the kids are not going. I cannot afford to buy them clothes. I really truly do not have the money. And she gets money for these things monthly. Arrgh.
I feel bad for the kids because they really wanted to go. I feel bad for hubby because he really wanted them to go. I feel bad that they can’t go for such a selfish reason. I bet you a buck she had her nails done!!
Posted by: maloneokie on: June 12, 2009
Yes it is finally Friday. This week has gone much better compared to last week.
Next week we head to Oklahoma. I am waiting on some major drama to occur. I will work on getting the house ready for the house sitter and getting myself packed. Whatever happens, I am heading out the door Thursday morning to Oklahoma.
No sympathy vote here but all the same….they took away our facebook access at work. Man, that just sucks because it gave me a fun mental break. It didn’t keep me (or anyone else) from doing their work. That just stinks. Along that note since my home PC is almost 6 years old (dinosaur!!) I am looking to get me a laptop and wireless internet. Look at me get all high tech and stuff. If anyone wants to help me set this dog and pony show – I will accept any and all help. If you need me to fly you to Nashville I will and I have 2 guests rooms if you need a place to stay – SERIOUSLY!! I am the tech person at the Okie Dokie home and I am not techie at all!!
My latest movie was “The Women” and it sucked sucked. I turned it off and gave it 2 stars. My next movie is “The Last Holiday”. Hubby and I are hoping to go the drive in movies tonight to see “Up” but he didn’t sleep well and I don’t know if I can stay awake for a movie to start at 9am. I know I am old!
The weekend looks quiet and I like that!! I did some small shopping yesterday at Ann Taylor and Kohls. I needed some more duds for my trip and now I need to get a pedicure. That is on the weekend list.
Stay out of trouble this weekend.
Posted by: maloneokie on: June 8, 2009
One of the reasons birthdays are so hard for me is it makes me realize how much I miss my parents and how much I miss my family and friends in Oklahoma. I am an island here in MCUSA. I just felt like “my” day was an after thought (and that is not hubby’s fault – he just doesn’t get it). I want my day to be special. But it was missed.
I am almost done pissing and moaning about it. Thanks for your patience and please fly again soon with Okie Dokie
Posted by: maloneokie on: June 8, 2009
Yea my birthday sucked. Sorry there it is. I am still (Monday) down in the dumps about it.
Friday I picked up the SK because hubby got caught at work with a flood. They had nothing with them. No clothes. Found out that SD#2 wasn’t even wearing underwear!! Both kids apologized for causing problems. What do these people say to these kids- geez! I assured them there was no problem and we went to eat at Olive Garden (doesn’t that solve most ills of the world?). Then at 9pm I am running around to Target and Old Navy trying to make sure they have something to sleep in and something to wake up to on Saturday.
I mowed and planted my tomatoes on Saturday. I hurt my back for the 5th week in a row. At some point I will stop this dance of hurting my back every Saturday. Hubby then half assed through together cake for my birthday. Thank goodness for Publix. I did go to Genghis Grill for the first time – oh my yummy!! I went to Ann Taylor Loft and left empty handed (isn’t that a crime??). I will try another Ann Taylor and Loft this week – I won’t go down easily.
Sunday (which was my actual birthday) was treated as just a day. After we took the kids back we did go to eat at Bonefish Grill and it was wonderful. I have the grilled shrimp and scallops with lemon butter. Yummy. It was wonderful. Hubby pissed and moaned about the kids all night and into Monday.
Wow what an exciting birthday you had Okie Dokie. You lead such a glamour life. So here on Monday I am kickin rocks but in a few day I should snap out of it. I see a pedicure in my near future!! That should help things out!
We leave for Oklahoma in about 10 days. I am holding my breath that there will be no last minutes issues. I am telling you – I am going to Oklahoma whether or not anybody else goes is there own deal.
Glad I could bring a ray of sunshine into your life today. Let me know if you need any more!!
